Wednesday, December 21, 2011


I've done ICLW several times, though I guess I've never done a synopsis "this is who I am" kind of post. And, since that seems like something I can do relatively quick, here it is. Oh, yeah, and if you have no idea what ICLW is, click here for more info.

Hubby and I have been married for 11.5 years and experienced unexplained infertility for several years. We have 2 boys who joined our family through adoption. Both are open, domestic, transracial adoptions. I was present in the delivery rooms of both my sweet boys. We adore both of their birth families, though our relationships have not always been smooth or easy. My kid is 5 and a half and in Kindergarten. Baby E is nearly 15 months and still doesn't sleep for crap at night. We're exhausted. All. the. time.

I blog about parenting, the funny crap my kid says, things we try that don't get baby E to sleep at night, life in general, social work, breastfeeding (oh yeah, I induced lactation and have been breastfeeding baby E since he was born), milk sharing, random stuff, and I don't really know what else. Even though I'm now parenting the best kids ever (pretty sure I'm not biased about that), I continue to deal with the affects of infertility. It's still something that pops up at the most unexpected moments. So I guess that is something I also blog about. Something else I write about is that my MIL was killed in a freak accident a few months ago. So, any references to grief, mourning ,etc... are about her. It was such a shock. We're mostly still reeling from it. I write about her to try to process it all. Also, usually what I write is more interesting than this post. I think. I hope.

Today's lesson: Apparently sometimes a person just has a song in his soul and he has to sing it out. At bed time. Because that's when it's aching to get out. At least that's the story my kid told tonight. It seems possible that it's also a strategy to delay bedtime.


Stephanie said...

You have a beautiful family! Congratulations on your two gorgeous little ones. My husband and I may adopt in the next few years, so it always makes my heart smile to read about happy families like yours.

Glass Case of Emotion said...

Love the name of your blog. I am an infertile counseling psychologist. Nice to meet you. We are on the path to domestic adoption (waiting and open to transracial adoption) and can't wait to complete our family. It's nice to find your blog. Happy ICLW!

My blog can be found at

Jayton said...

wow was so happy to see ur boys, was it ur preference to have inter-racial kids?

Liz said...

Visiting from ICLW and also your newest follower. Your boys are beautiful and I look forward to reading more. Sorry your little one doesn't like sleep, maybe when he's a teenager? JK

Anonymous said...

A little late on this post but I wanted to comment here first. I love the fact that you induced lactation and still breastfeeding!!! My DS is still nursing at 22 months.

I attend a breastfeeding support group regularly and one of the moms nursed her adopted daughter and it was just the most beautiful thing I have ever heard of.

Happy ICLW!