tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post7099106456591269517..comments2023-12-05T23:44:10.102-05:00Comments on Lessons from an Infertile Social Worker: The Things IF Takes from UsBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07614553637265139846noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-2949703197086162822013-01-08T04:10:09.653-05:002013-01-08T04:10:09.653-05:00I can tell you, that even becoming pregnant and be...I can tell you, that even becoming pregnant and becoming a mother have not eased the pain of IF. Like you I don't love my children more or less because of IF, but, I do find myself being a little jealous of couples who easily conceive or conceive by surprise. Sometimes I even find myself jealous of those pregnant who also struggled with IF. IF sucks and the pain fades a good bit with the busy-ness of children, but, never goes away.Dorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461895115030148473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-87294945653074546632013-01-08T04:09:37.318-05:002013-01-08T04:09:37.318-05:00I can tell you, that even becoming pregnant and be...I can tell you, that even becoming pregnant and becoming a mother have not eased the pain of IF. Like you I don't love my children more or less because of IF, but, I do find myself being a little jealous of couples who easily conceive or conceive by surprise. Sometimes I even find myself jealous of those pregnant who also struggled with IF. IF sucks and the pain fades a good bit with the busy-ness of children, but, never goes away.Dorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461895115030148473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-59978746619192628912012-07-27T10:53:32.330-04:002012-07-27T10:53:32.330-04:00I know that when (if?) we finally have a child (wh...I know that when (if?) we finally have a child (whatever what it happens) these feelings of IF will live on strongly. Because it changes everything. And it's traumatic. And it's painful. And it takes things away from us. I'm sorry for that, and I'm sorry for all it has taken from you and your husband. You might be stronger for it, but that doesn't make it "okay." Just know I am grateful for stories like yours that give me hope <3Jenn and Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16207173478938274488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-77240118529037228212012-07-25T16:44:54.882-04:002012-07-25T16:44:54.882-04:00Amen!!! No matter what, IF still sucks.Amen!!! No matter what, IF still sucks.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07524692943966582775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-26852710299885218692012-07-24T18:05:10.806-04:002012-07-24T18:05:10.806-04:00Hi from ICLW! I just have to say your profile pic...Hi from ICLW! I just have to say your profile pic of your family - so cute! Some days I think I am okay with the fact that I'll never get pregnant or have a baby that is a little of me & a little of my hubby - ha! I don't think I'll ever be 100% okay with it. I am hoping that the passing of time, and when we adopt, will help ease some of the pain, though.Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07549803190101959114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-57673099097340348642012-07-24T16:07:40.676-04:002012-07-24T16:07:40.676-04:00Hi from ICLW!
You're so right - it's not,...Hi from ICLW!<br /><br />You're so right - it's not, well, anybody's responsibility to fix us. Right on, mama.<br /><br />Whenever I think about it I'm genuinely pissed off about the things IF stole - my big pregnancy-related one is that I'll never be able to surprise my husband, I'll never find out I'm pregnant and instantly feel secure and excited (thank you, chemical pregnancy!)Stupid Storkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00161877442649107282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-53003116414063842602012-07-24T10:42:35.354-04:002012-07-24T10:42:35.354-04:00You are so right. No matter how our children came ...You are so right. No matter how our children came to us it doesn't take away all the loss before that. IF is now and always will be a part of me just as my son is now and will always be a part of me. They may be linked together but they are two very different parts of my life and one does not change the magnitude of the other.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08859359355930701383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-32170601485571775022012-07-24T09:07:29.638-04:002012-07-24T09:07:29.638-04:00When my Hubs and I started the discussion and rese...When my Hubs and I started the discussion and research into adoption (we have since decided to pursue surrogacy first) Hubs asked me if I thought having a child would 'fix' how I feel about myself, my IF, the fact I feel 'less of a woman'. I said no. It may take away things that hurt me but that will never, ever go away; I will always look in the mirror or look at my abdomen and think 'I am missing the major part of being a woman, what does that make me?' I am not sure he will ever get that. IF sucks indeed!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com