tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post6181244650177133532..comments2023-12-05T23:44:10.102-05:00Comments on Lessons from an Infertile Social Worker: Cry it OutBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07614553637265139846noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-82665788138558155752011-08-07T00:22:51.122-04:002011-08-07T00:22:51.122-04:00I'm a few days behind on my reading....I teare...I'm a few days behind on my reading....I teared up reading this post!!! To me, when I read about attachment parenting, and sleep training and all of that, they make sense, but I understand that some people have other opinions. But it's honestly a life or death matter when it comes to helping an infant feel safe and secure and build trust in his/her parents. Of course there are parents who aren't unconditionally loving or supportive and may also show that as early as infanthood, which is super sad. I think so many more parents should learn about this seemingly simple act- bonding with your child and loving/nurturing/comforting them unconditionally. Thank you for being such a thoughtful and committed parent. The world needs parents who understand that a 4 month old can't "manipulate" you with crying any more than a houseplant can. The more intuitive, supportive, involved parents there are, the better our world will be.A Life Being Livedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702473000464603292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-40830238526388869952011-07-27T22:31:47.664-04:002011-07-27T22:31:47.664-04:00I feel you, but I'm always afraid to say anyth...I feel you, but I'm always afraid to say anything! I had SO MANY people telling me to do CIO. I had so many people tell me they did it and it worked. I stuck to my guns and did the whole attachment parenting thing. My 2 and a half year old is independent, goes to sleep by herself, and sleeps through the night. I never sleep trained her in any way. I completely "spoiled" her and now as a result she feels secure and comfortable. She just started sleeping by herself when she was ready, which was right after her second birthday. People tell me I was crazy to "put up with it" that long... But I miss getting up with her. The baby days go by way too fast.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03495796091157215318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-76184217556368462222011-07-26T09:36:43.781-04:002011-07-26T09:36:43.781-04:00I love you right now. Really. With my bug I've...I love you right now. Really. With my bug I've always said we wont CIO. Granted, there were times I had to let her cry for a few so I could breath. But thats it. I nursed to sleep for probably 9 months or so. We have had a lot of problems lately with getting her to sleep on her own. K and I had a long conversation about CIO and luckily he was still on the same page as me, in not doing it. <br />Timing of this post was perfect :)Emmshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08761362136697332510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7511988469719165869.post-1879053011140489232011-07-25T12:18:35.784-04:002011-07-25T12:18:35.784-04:00I completely completely agree with your thoughts o...I completely completely agree with your thoughts on this. I go absolutely nuts when I hear about crying it out with a brand new baby. They just spent nine months all cuddly and snug and warm in a womb (basically nine months of being held) and are thrust into a scary world, being held is a necessary comfort. <br /><br />I used to work in an orphanage overseas where the caretakers refused to allow us volunteers to hold the babies when they cried because "then they would expect it all the time". It broke my heart and did not produce emotionally healthy kids. <br /><br />I do have to say that crying it out is useful in one situation, when a parent is frustrated. Set the baby down, let him cry, and walk away. Spend a few minutes to yourself (or however long you need) calming down, and then go back and hold your baby when you are ready.Lechellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06269950945901115240noreply@blogger.com